Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
If we associate failure with unworthiness, then starting anything new is going to feel overwhelming and procrastination will be front and centre.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
We cannot directly choose our emotions and switch them on but we can use the things we can control to change how we feel.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Self-compassion, on the other hand, treating yourself with kindness, respect, honesty and encouragement after a failure, is associated with increased motivation and better outcomes (Wohl et al., 2010).
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Rumination is like a thoughts washing machine. It’s the process of churning thoughts over and over for minutes, hours or days at a time.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
When we try to stop feelings in their tracks, we easily get knocked off our feet and find ourselves in trouble, struggling to catch a breath and work out which way is up. When we allow the emotion to wash over us, it rises, peaks and descends, taking its natural course.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
until we switch off the TV, close down the app, or sober up, and then the feelings come back. Each time we go round that cycle the feelings come back even more intense.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Take anyone on this earth and start depriving them of sleep and that person will become vulnerable to both physical and mental illness.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
The problem with decision-making when you feel down is that low mood gives us the urge to do things that we know will keep us stuck.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Feeling down is more likely to reflect unmet needs than a brain malfunction.