Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
If you disconnect with one emotion, you disconnect from them all.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Self-soothing is any set of behaviours that help you to feel safe and soothed as you experience a painful emotion.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
My Oasis
Each emotion can offer you information, but not necessarily the whole story. If there is something emotions are pretty useful for, it’s telling you what you need.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
As the river of constant thoughts flows, we get to put our head above water and check those thoughts are heading in the direction we want to move in.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
The metacognition tool of pausing between emotion and action is that same process of stepping back, even just for a moment, to check in with your thoughts and actions
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
I must have gone through this process a thousand times. Distract, pull back. Distract, pull back.
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Do those behaviours help you in the short-term? What is their longer-term impact?
Julie Smith • Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Is it a behaviour? Do you recognize your blocking or protective behaviours? Where do you feel the emotion in your body? What thoughts are there? What beliefs are you buying into about this situation? What effect is that having on you? Try writing down those thoughts and narratives. What can they tell you about what you are afraid of? What behaviour
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What are the first signs for you that emotional discomfort is present?