The best way to open people's minds isn't to argue with them. It's to listen to them. When people feel understood, they become less defensive and more reflective—and develop less extreme, more nuanced views. Productive disagreements begin with curiosity, not persuasion.
By considering the strongest version of an opponent’s perspective and limiting our responses to our few best steps, we have a better chance of finding a rhythm.
often all it takes to break an impasse is to seek to understand others’ views.
“Uncle Carl, I can tell that you’re really passionate about this, and I would sincerely like to explore and understand your point of view. I’m pretty sure it’s different from mine, and it would be great to learn more about what you think. I’m committing to listening with an open mind. I wonder if, once I’ve done that, you’d be willing to listen to
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