The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships

a true invitation is free of obligation.

If your statement seeks to manipulate or control your partner in any way, you are still dealing with an expectation.

Once you’ve analyzed what an expectation has done for you, consider this question: If you continue to have this expectation, how likely is it to bring you satisfaction in the future?

when you understand that your expectations are essentially choices you’re making about how to relate to others, simply being aware of them will begin to lessen their impact.

An authentic desire never seeks to restrict, inhibit, or restrain another person in any way. An authentic desire has no “should” quality to it.

using “should” with another person almost certainly implies that he or she is not doing something right.

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Once you recognize that you have an expectation, you have the opportunity to immediately reduce its negative impact by simply doing nothing.

You might begin by asking yourself these questions: Is there anything I’ve been wanting more of in this relationship that I could decide to be responsible for providing? Is there anything that seems to be lacking that I could bring into this relationship with the power of my intention?