The Power of Shutting Up
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Impossible Silences - The Convivial Society
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Illich is encouraging a silence grounded in humility, a silence that arises not from a desire to be heard but from a desire to hear and to understand.
L. M. Sacasas • Impossible Silences - The Convivial Society
The idea of silence as a commons, as Illich described it here, suggests to a me shared space into which you and I might enter and have just as much of a chance of being heard as anyone else. Technologies that augment the human voice empower those who possess them at the expense of those who do not, setting off the escalatory dynamics that eventuall... See more
L. M. Sacasas • Impossible Silences - The Convivial Society
Before words leave your mouth, you pause and ask yourself: “Does what I’m about to say fall below the level of basic respect?” If you judge what you’re about to say as disrespectful, I have great advice for you. Shut up. And pledge, sincerely, from this moment forward, to do your best to curb actions and words that shame another.
Bruce Springsteen • Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press)
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You need to suspend your reaction when you feel like striking back, to listen when you feel like talking back, to ask questions when you feel like telling your opponent the answers, to bridge your differences when you feel like pushing for your way, and to educate when you feel like escalating.
William Ury • Getting Past No: Negotiating in Difficult Situations
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