Once you make the decision to undergo a transition, you enter into a maelstrom that often seems chaotic and out of control. But my conversations suggest there is surprising order to these times—and a substantial number of things you can do to make them go more smoothly. Let’s start with the overall structure.

Reflect: A call to pause before you start the journey and then at various steps along the way, understanding that change and choice occur from the inside out. Connect: A step where you request feedback and counsel from trusted friends and guides, recognizing that isolation is fatal—no one should make this journey alone. Explore: A beginning of the