The Let Them Theory

was starting to create a community for myself. The warmth you offer others always finds its way back to you.

And that brings me to the major discovery that I made when I first started researching the theory. Let Them is just the first half of the equation. You cannot stop there. There is a second, critical part to the theory—Let Me.

Jealousy is an invitation from your future self. It is inviting you to look more closely at someone else—not to make you feel inferior, but to show you what is possible.

Other people’s success is evidence that you can do it too.

You can’t control the success of others, but you can control how you respond to it.

Every time you edit what you post, or stay silent in class or at work, or hide in the back of the group photo, you are engaging in self-rejection. You’re the one telling yourself that you’re not good enough. The constant questioning, editing, deleting, overthinking, and asking other people,

Every successful speaker does the same three things. And, until you do these things, you’re not really in the speaking game. Here is what they told me to do: Build a simple website with photos of you on a stage, plus a description of your keynote and the main takeaways. Get testimonials from a few event planners at past events you have spoken at an

Let Me give myself the opportunity to have the life I deserve.

How do I motivate my team? Whether you’re leading an executive team, the nightshift at a warehouse, training one new employee, or trying to manage a little league team—the answer is the same. It’s all based on how YOU show up in that role. Having a good boss is what creates good teams. It’s not the size of the budget, the perks, or even the talent—