Remember: You will find the right relationship by saying no to the wrong ones.

There is a difference between supporting an adult who is struggling and supporting a child who is struggling. When you are dealing with a child, you are responsible for their emotional, financial, and physical support. When you are dealing with an adult, you are not.

Dr. Ablon also shared a philosophy with me that I want to share with you—People do well when they can. Not when they want to do well, but when they can. By asking all these open-ended questions, you might just discover that the person you love wants to do well, they just don’t think they can right now. It’s not an issue of motivation. What’s in the

In this method, you’ll ask “why?” five total times until you feel like you’ve gotten to a much deeper answer

technique called the 5 Whys method. The 5 Whys method was created by Sakichi Toyoda, an inventor and founder of the Toyota family companies, as a way to help engineers uncover the root cause of a particular problem, and it’s now taught in business schools and engineering programs around the world.

There are three pillars to adult friendship: proximity, timing, and energy.

According to a University of Kansas study, to become a “casual” friend, you have to spend 74 hours with someone. And to become a “close” friend, you have to spend over 200 hours with someone.

Jealousy is an invitation from your future self. It is inviting you to look more closely at someone else—not to make you feel inferior, but to show you what is possible.

No one is taking anything from you. Happiness, success, and money are waiting for you to get serious about creating them. I will say this again: No one else’s wins are your losses. That’s why you have to change the way you look at other people’s success.