Streamline Your Routine Vacuum on Thursdays. Clean the mirrors when you dust. Clean the shower before you get out. Clean the toilet before you shower because toilets are gross.

therapy trying to figure out why being perfect at literally everything felt like the answer.

Every choice matters because each one matters to someone, but hold only the ones that matter to you. As you live as a unique, stunning, powerful individual, embracing what matters and ditching what doesn’t, you’ll empower the women in your life to do the same.

Decide once to go out for pancakes the night before the first day of school. And if everyone digs it, do it again the next year. Decide once that you’ll spend Christmas Eve looking at Christmas lights in your pajamas, and then pile in the car.

Naturally, I assumed that I was the problem, that I wasn’t trying hard enough or being perfect enough to make our home a happy place.

Little did I know you can be just as exhausted from not trying as you can from trying too hard.

figuring out how to meet your own needs with whatever you have left over—assuming you know what your needs are in the first place.

Pause and think about the cleaning tasks that sap you dry. What would happen if you made one decision just one time to make the process a little bit easier?

You’re “on” all the time, trying to be present with your people, managing the emotions of everyone around you,