I stopped caring and I stopped trying, and somehow I still felt tired. Little did I know you can be just as exhausted from not trying as you can from trying too hard. Managing apathy and survival mode takes as much energy as managing rules and perfection.

Other Mondays got a dose of determined genius. I’d spend Sunday night maniacally scribbling in my newest planner, organizing every meal I’d make, glass of water I’d consume, errand I’d run,

Every choice matters because each one matters to someone, but hold only the ones that matter to you. As you live as a unique, stunning, powerful individual, embracing what matters and ditching what doesn’t, you’ll empower the women in your life to do the same.

Sure, that thought feels icky, but the real truth is that we don’t resent giving gifts; we resent not having the margin to be more thoughtful about the process.

If you and I engage every priority without a filter of what stays and what needs to move along, eventually we’ll be at a crossroads: run ourselves ragged caring about everything or give up and care about nothing.

You’re “on” all the time, trying to be present with your people, managing the emotions of everyone around you,

Intellectually, we know we can’t do it all, but still we try.

We need a filter that allows us to craft a life focusing only on what matters to us, not on what everyone else says should matter.

Pause and think about the cleaning tasks that sap you dry. What would happen if you made one decision just one time to make the process a little bit easier?