But here’s the thing: When I do actually find a rare bit of “me” time, I often don’t know what to do with it. I’ve been drowning so long and so deep in my own mental labor, I don’t even know who I am when I stumble upon a life preserver.

In order to figure out what we want to do with our precious time and energy, we have to figure out who we are an... See more

I could spend my entire life checking off items on my to-do list, and in the end, it would make very little difference. I didn’t want my epitaph to read, “She got a lot of stuff done.” Instead, I had to figure out how I, and I alone, could make a difference—and this was as true for my homelife as it was for my professional one.

Let us be different in our homes. Let us realize that, along with food, shelter, and clothing, we have another obligation to our children, and that is to affirm their “rightness.” The whole world will tell them what’s wrong with them—loud and often. Our job is to let our children know what’s right about them

The three keys to peaceful parenting:

• Regulate your own emotions:“Our ability to self-regulate might have the biggest impact on who our child turns out to be compared to anything else we do”


• Connect with your kids


• Coach instead of punishing

Raising children has come to look more and more like a business endeavor and less and less like an endeavor of the heart. We are overly concerned with “the bottom line,” with how our children “do” rather than with who our children “are.” We pour time, attention, and money into insuring their performance, consistently making it to their soccer game ... See more