Identity

More and more it seems to me that about the best thing in life is to have a piece of work worth doing and then to do it well.

“All art,” he wrote, “is a kind of confession, more or less oblique. All artists, if they are to survive, are forced, at last, to tell the whole story, to vomit the anguish up.”

This points to the truth that the world view we operate from affects everything from how we feel to how well we process information to how we behave.

The mode we tend to live from, hostile or friendly, survive or thrive, is a reflection of which brain circuits have been most consistently recruited over a person's live, starting in childhood. Childr

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After twenty years of mostly taking care of my daughter’s and husband’s needs first, I had no idea what I wanted. If you put yourself last, you can’t even see yourself anymore! So I took my time, getting to know myself again, trying things out, and asking myself, do I like this? Do I want more of this? Or less?

But here’s the thing: When I do actually find a rare bit of “me” time, I often don’t know what to do with it. I’ve been drowning so long and so deep in my own mental labor, I don’t even know who I am when I stumble upon a life preserver.

In order to figure out what we want to do with our precious time and energy, we have to figure out who we are an... See more

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