We consistently give more than we receive, then feel abused and neglected because of it. We wonder why, when we anticipate the needs of others, no one notices our needs. We may become seriously depressed as a result of not getting our needs met. Yet a good caretaker feels safest when giving; we feel guilty and uncomfortable when someone gives to us

Over the years, I began to see a pattern: I asked too much of my friends morally and was terribly disappointed when I realised that they weren’t willing to sacrifice as much for me as I for them.