The enshittification of dating apps
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The enshittification of dating apps
In addition to being modeled after addictive casino games, online dating and apps are optimized for user engagement (i.e. membership and advertising revenue) instead of user desired outcome (i.e. finding your future husband).
Camille Virginia • The Offline Dating Method: How to Attract a Great Guy in the Real World
The problem today’s daters face is that the mass adoption of online dating apps has not only eroded incentives to switch from explore to exploit mode, it has made exploration itself boring and dysfunctional.
Shreeda Segan • Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
Phil Nguyen and added
Operating in the anxious space between notions of health and toxicity, relationship apps teach us ways of loving that privilege efficiency over depth, quantifiability over knowledge, and success over joy.
Real Life • Silent Partner
Keely Adler added
To exist on a dating app is to be constantly inundated by the pressure to meet up, regardless of your readiness. And for women, that pressure is reinforced by existing in a world that hates them for being single.
How Celibate Women Became a Threat
Molly added
kev and added
The pressure to perform and present a curated version of our lives is unbearable and unrealistic, and engagement based services have greatly altered how a majority of people in today’s world perceive their own value and worth.
Carter Moore • Why I Deleted Instagram
Jonathan Simcoe added
Dysfunctional dating protocols have a profound ability to negatively impact the long-term progression of society. If you only care about interacting with others for short-term benefits you can extract from each other, you lose the potential for solving loneliness, building community, or accessing committed support systems. Society as a whole could ... See more
Shreeda Segan • Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
Phil Nguyen added
The incentives of dating apps actively discourage building algorithms that show compatible matches, since finding a compatible match means you no longer need their product. You really are put in a room with total strangers, most likely the wrong kind, instead of those with similar interests and values. If you met the right stranger, you’d hit it of... See more
Shreeda Segan • Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
Phil Nguyen added