Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
There is a good deal of implicit sentiment around relationships that troubles me, because it assumes a fundamentally defensive posture: You have to be happy first, you should date around a lot, you should reject quickly and on small pretenses, you shouldn’t take dating too seriously, etc. For some even attachment is a dirty word! 1 All of this is n... See more
Simon Sarris • quests, failure, desire
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Avoid dating apps, if you can. In a world of billions, in which city dwellers interact anonymously with people every day, dating apps may be a good way to sort through a nearly infinite number of choices. The risks are many, though, including that seeing so many possible partners may make you less interested in going deep with any individual. In su
... See moreHeather Heying • A Hunter-Gatherer's Guide to the 21st Century: Evolution and the Challenges of Modern Life
In addition to being modeled after addictive casino games, online dating and apps are optimized for user engagement (i.e. membership and advertising revenue) instead of user desired outcome (i.e. finding your future husband).
Camille Virginia • The Offline Dating Method: How to Attract a Great Guy in the Real World
“We are in uncharted territory” when it comes to Tinder et al., says Justin Garcia, a research scientist at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. “There have been two major transitions” in heterosexual mating “in the last four million years,” he says. “The first was around 10,000 to 15,000 years ago, i... See more
Nancy Jo Sales • Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse
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A new era of romanticism, love, and intimacy - uncharted territory, prompted by the collision of hookup culture and dating apps.
The problem with the minimal-investment approach to seduction – bred by an overload of options on dating apps and infiltrating courtship more broadly – is that it is difficult to drum up desire in the absence of effort.
Mia Levitin • The Future of Seduction
