Make a list of what you’d do if you had twenty-four hours left to live. If you start crying while you’re writing your list, good. You’re on the right track. This exercise can rapidly clarify what really matters to you, and what you value most in life.

Take a few moments to notice how you’re feeling. Then revise your checklist accordingly.

Nowadays, I carry a clipboard and pen with me whenever I go to the gym. I check things off my Workout Checklist as I’m going along. By the end of my workout session, I’m covered in sweat—and my list is covered in checkmarks! Victory!

Adopt a sohwakhaeng attitude towards life and fill your day with moments of “small but certain happiness.” •Make sexual energy your #1 priority and design your whole day around this.

Things like hugging your child, gazing at the starry night sky, writing a love letter, stretching or working out, listening to your favorite music, lighting a fragrant candle, decluttering your desk so it’s tidy and attractive, and of course, the simple satisfaction of checking an item off a checklist. All of these experiences can feel really

you can also get dopamine from experiences that are more nourishing—things that provide wonderful health benefits without a throbbing hangover the next morning.

“By making a checklist for your day,” Gemma said. “That’s like taking the ‘reason’ you’ve chosen and putting it into words, putting things into a plan. You’re taking the mystery and making meaning out of it.”

“Yes! When you have a checklist for your day, it’s like a seatbelt on a rocket ship. You’re still hurtling through time and space. Everything is still crazy and mysterious. But you feel a little calmer, a little more secure. Your nervous system settles down. You can relax a bit. You can actually enjoy the rocket ride—instead of feeling terrified

Sohwakhaeng is a Korean term that means “small but certain happiness.”