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The Age of Abandonment
The Age of Abandonment
We simply don’t believe anyone will stay
FREYA INDIA
OCT 8
I’ve written a lot about my generation and fear. Our fear of love, and fear of life. But I’ve been getting the sense lately that there’s some ultimate fear underlying all this, running through everything. And I’m becoming convinced that it’s fear of abandonment.
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And so I think when young people talk about what’s plaguing them— situationships, not getting on the housing ladder, even the climate crisis—what they are often getting at is the transience of everything. Everything uprooted. Everything unstable. They don’t feel attached to anything, anyone, anywhere. They don’t even feel like the Earth will stick ... See more
Our New Religion Isn't Enough
At the heart of many mental traumas is an early experience of abandonment. Someone, when we badly needed them, was not present and their neglect has thrown us off balance ever since. We may find it hard to depend on others in adult life and lack faith that someone won’t run away, or take advantage of us, in turn.
Alain de Botton • A Therapeutic Journey: Lessons from The School of Life
James Berges added
“If you don’t come to terms with your fear of abandonment, you will never be able to act with abandon.” (Berenson, 1998) How true this is! If we don’t face our abandonment fears, we’ll never be free. We’ll always be walking on tiptoe, making sure that no one leaves us. We’ll squeeze the life out of our relationships as well as ourselves. In this wa
... See moreRokelle Lerner • The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists
With this in mind, is it any wonder young people’s ideas about what ‘home’ means have shifted radically? Should it really come as a surprise that for the generation now coming of age, the concept of ‘home’ is more unstable, impermanent, and deeply-rooted in emotion than ever before?
Eloise Hendy • Home is where the heart is, according to young people
Keely Adler added
It is an old compulsion to try to impose a narrative on our lives, especially when looking for meaning in our existence. But life does have a natural progression, a natural flow that Millennials ought to have simply participated in, and many feel it’s not flowing as it should.
Many felt there were certain things that should have fallen into place by... See more
Many felt there were certain things that should have fallen into place by... See more
Bride Jabour • ‘A late blooming into misery’: why Millennials are unhappy
owl added
amongst the reasons i've theorised, the ubiquity of media (specifically, nostalgia-driven and self-referential media), where no one seems to age or "mature”(whatever that means). the other side of the theory involves, of course, capitalism. the oppressive conditions that might lead us to turn inward, seek distraction and perform a "simpler” time perpetually— to willingly blind ourselves to the crippling realization that we grew into a world much more hostile than any previous generation had to face. i miss vine, btw. dab and all that.
Fear of Abandonment