Frequently, they also deny the needs of their heart, including the fact that they needed love as a child and that they still need love now.

Since they believe that the purpose of life is improvement, they are likely to want to improve not only themselves, but also those around them and any organizations they are involved in.

Aggressive-patterned people also habitually neglect to measure the bodily limitations and capacities of others. They think to themselves, “If I can do it, you can do it,” which leads them to make irrational demands of others, like “It’s only a broken ankle! Walk it off!”

People who were conditioned into this pattern also need to gently and gradually unfreeze the places where they froze in shock a long time

The key to differentiating the patterns is this: does the person have a developed core? When slammed, does he collapse or slam you back? When attacked, does he retreat or counter-attack? Does he default to love or to power?

Since they are comfortable and effective in holding and wielding power, aggressive-patterned people are often known as the Can Do people, the ones that others turn to for the initiative and courage to accomplish a mission.

“I am not my body; I am my mind.” “I don’t physically exist.” “My actions don’t matter.” “No one cares.” “I am out there alone.” “I am not safe here.” “The physical world is cold and loveless.” “The physical body and physical world are not mine and not important.”

They tend to expect too much, pushing her into situations she’s not ready for. As she tries to keep up, she gets ahead of her natural rhythm and timing, takes on too much responsibility, and begins to act like a little adult instead of like a child. In psychology, this situation is referred to as “precocious development,” and it is part of what

The variation among those who do the rigid pattern is mostly in the amount of flexibility they have as they perceive and respond to the world. Lower functioning individuals are more rigid, while higher functioning ones are more flexible.