The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity

The anger usually originates in a buried need or desire, which is then expressed as condemnation or resentment of those who are allowed to have or do the forbidden thing.

This map is fundamentally different: it does not describe who you are, but instead describes the safety strategies you automatically go into when you start to feel overwhelmed.

A+R – Big energy, coupled with precision and a sense of righteousness. These people have big firepower and good aim, so they are able to use power effectively to accomplish their agenda, whether for good or ill. Both patterns tend to ignore the needs of others.

First, don’t take ownership of the problem. His complaining is designed to lure you into this, but don’t take the bait. Instead, acknowledge it as his problem. You can say something like, “Gee, that sounds really awful.” Empathize with him and his distress,

Instead, she is trained to reference only outside authorities for guidance.

The body tends to be soft and rounded, much like the body of an infant.

Directing her attention back to her body sensations will give her a real-world reference point that will gradually stop the spinning.

Because they have a strong, focused will, they are good at attraction and manifestation. They also tend to be creative, especially when it’s useful for their survival. These are people who show up for life, and they expect others to do the same. They are intense: alive, aware, highly charged, and engaged.

As with all things relating to the survival patterns, this is not a one-size-fits-all prescription. In addition to considering what patterns they run and what those patterns value, you’ll also need to consider their personal values.