When in the gifts of this pattern, they have a strong respect for social, cultural, and legal rules; they know the rules and understand their value. Because they are so aware of form, those in the gifts of this pattern are good at perceiving and respecting boundaries, whether they are psychological, spatial, or legal boundaries.

energy leaking from their container will often take the form of small emotional displays. If

As the possibility of human connection returns, the grief at its loss will also return. She will likely cycle through waves of rage,

Even receiving what they need from someone else is seen as a threat because that might lead to depending on that person.

Because they have a strong, focused will, they are good at attraction and manifestation. They also tend to be creative, especially when it’s useful for their survival. These are people who show up for life, and they expect others to do the same. They are intense: alive, aware, highly charged, and engaged.

Instead of feeling full and pushing herself away, she repeatedly experienced difficulty filling and then lost the source of nourishment without feeling full.

Their first answer will be an automatic “no.” This answer is intended simply to buy time so that they can consider your request. That is its function.

Along the way, keep in mind that, for them, complaining about your request doesn’t mean “no”; it means, “I don’t know yet.” So, if they’re complaining, just give the process some more time.

Often, there is no intense feeling to alert the child that something bad is happening to them. It’s more a gradual indoctrination into the Church of the One Right Way and the Church of the Performance Self.