The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity

And he learned these things through his body, not his mind.

The superego is composed of three parts: the ideal self-image the inner praiser the inner critic

Instead, she is trained to reference only outside authorities for guidance.

In romantic relationships, rigid-patterned people typically want to improve both the relationship and the partner/spouse. In fact, they see helping the other improve as an act of love, since this is how love was expressed to them in childhood.

So they’re stuck in a bind: they want to do things for themselves, but they cannot show that. Often, they cannot even consciously know it without arousing a lot of anxiety. So what can they do? They can know what they don’t want. It is safer and easier for them to know what they don’t want, than to know what they do want.

They also have difficulty saying “no” when they need to. Without

A third scenario that tends to create the aggressive pattern is one in which the love the child received was then used to manipulate him.

In general, enduring-patterned people want to avoid risk and play it safe.

Another way they recreate their childhood wounding is by breaking the connection with others and leaving at the first hint of an emotional disturbance. When they leave, the other person feels abandoned and protests in some way, which creates the very sort of emotional disturbance that they feared. The other person’s frustration and anger then seem