The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity

This need for someone else to regulate the charge in our bodies is one of the defining characteristics of childhood. Conversely, the ability to regulate our own bodies is one of the defining characteristics of adulthood. Adults are able to track their own needs and take responsibility for either giving themselves what they need or negotiating ways

Her main focus will always be on the connections between people and on trying to keep everyone happy. Behaviorally, she will be very contactful — very talkative and touchy-feely.

Each of us is born with certain talents, and if those talents are useful or rewarded in our early environment, we tend to develop them into skills.

The emotional attachment of a deep, heart-felt romantic relationship will re-awaken the terror because it re-constellates the experience of emotionally needing another human being.

Aggressive-patterned people also recreate their childhood experience of being too much for others by inflating themselves and using their size and energy to intimidate others.

Whatever form it takes, as they send the burst of energy toward you, you’ll feel a pressure wave hit your body.

Remember that each of the survival patterns is a strategy to buffer the self from feeling overwhelmed in an unsafe situation.

For people who adopted the enduring pattern, it was the process of creating and expressing a separate self that brought the attack. So to protect their budding self, they learned to negate their self.

A deep and emotionally attached love relationship will re-awaken their core terror because it re-constellates the experience of emotionally needing another human being. Because of this, people who are caught in this survival pattern often avoid falling deeply in love.