The 36 Questions That Lead to Love (Published 2015)

Do we want the same things out of life? Do we bring out the best in each other? Do we find each other attractive?

Questions to Spark Investment “What’s your favorite color?” “What did you think of high school?” “What did you eat for dinner last night?” “Have you ever been to the hospital emergency room?” “How old where you when you first got drunk?” “Did you and your siblings keep secrets?” “Ever had a very rough breakup?” “What’s your favorite food, vacation,

20 QUESTIONS FOR LOOKING INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

QUESTIONS:

1. How good are you at asking questions? How can you improve in this area? Would those closest to you describe you more as a 'teller' or an 'asker?




2. Think of the names of one or two of your closer friends (excluding your wife and kids). With those names in mind, can you list any of the following characteristics about them:

a. Their most signifi

Here are a few somewhat more unusual questions we recommend—again, depending on context—with more questions coming in the section on how to get “meta”: “What are ten words your spouse or partner or friend would use to describe you?” “What’s the most courageous thing you’ve done?” “If you joined us and then in three to six months you were no longer

The procedure is based on long-standing research showing that the best way to build a friendship is to escalate self-disclosure gradually, essentially moving through McAdams’s levels. So you should begin with the relatively tame questions—say, “Who would you invite to dinner if you could pick anyone at all?—and take time to work up to the more inte