Never victimise yourself, no one will care, but your growth will stop — pain may earn you sympathy, but self-pity demands an audience you’ll never keep. Life rewards the ones who turn wounds into wisdom, not those who frame them for pity likes. The moment you cast yourself as the perpetual victim, you hand over the pen that writes your story, and w... See more
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The victim narrative reflects a wider societal trend in which we’re all prone to seeing ourselves as the victims of circumstance and deserving of compensation or reward for our suffering. Even when people have been victimized, if the narrative never moves beyond victimhood, it’s difficult for healing to occur.
Anna Lembke • Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
Those we stone with our insults and shaming and denunciation are ourselves. Understand a person’s backstory, and you will realize, “That could have been me.” None of us are made of better or worse stuff than the rest. We all are life, doing what life does in the circumstances it is in. Yet neither is anyone a helpless victim of circumstance. That’s... See more