Never victimise yourself, no one will care, but your growth will stop — pain may earn you sympathy, but self-pity demands an audience you’ll never keep. Life rewards the ones who turn wounds into wisdom, not those who frame them for pity likes. The moment you cast yourself as the perpetual victim, you hand over the pen that writes your story, and... See more
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By doing that, my position becomes superior to other people’s, and I can become special. Quite a few people try to be “special” by adopting this kind of attitude when they are sick or injured, or suffering the mental anguish of heartbreak.
Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga • The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
Self-pity connotes victimization and martyrdom, and even though you may indeed feel victimized, this attitude will prevent you from taking action and will inevitably drive people away.
Rokelle Lerner • The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists
A self-victimizing mindset is a combination of feeling helplessness for an extended time and being skeptical about finding long-term satisfaction.