Subtraction and Addition
The deaths came as a shock to everyone. As Jody watched three grieving families, she thought of the comfort Larry’s words had provided his family. She hurt for the children, those “who knew unquestionably of their parents’ love, but desperately missed the reassurance and security that their physical presence provided.” She couldn’t stop thinking of
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Understood this way, then, the ongoing relationship with the gone is a lavishment to other loves, for it has made us exactly who we are — the person doing the loving, the person being loved, the mapmaker of present and possible worlds. O’Connor offers neural affirmation for this poetic aspiration:
Maria Popova • Your Brain on Grief, Your Heart on Healing
When we lose someone we love, our brains struggle to adjust to their absence. Love is what psychologists call a “bonded relationship”—it relies on our belief that we and the people we love will always be there for each other. And when that’s no longer true, at least in a physical sense, it can feel like part of you is missing. In fact, O’Connor
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