When it comes to the business of dating apps, the most relevant principle isn’t necessarily patriarchal, but inherently capitalist: celibate, app-less women are not lucrative, an issue that the entire industry is grappling with.

“I have been forced to hear again and again the message that self-love is the ‘pinnacle of self-actualization’ and that craving a romantic relationship is a sign of weakness,” says maya finoh, a human rights advocate and model based in Brooklyn. But is our fear of appearing weak just feeding into rampant individualism in the dating climate and, in ... See more

a post-90s dynamic in dating: the commodification of people on dating apps, just another place to find made-to-order goods. The matchmaking service that Lucy provides does much the same thing, filtering out and matching candidates by numbers on a spreadsheet: age, weight, height, income. Characters constantly talk about feeling valuable, which here... See more