What we envy in others is actually a cue for us to become clearer about what we want to create for ourselves. We aren’t actually trying to say they don’t deserve that, but rather, I want to feel like I deserve that, too. Jealousy reveals our own self-suppression.

Instead of letting envy turn you into the pettiest version of yourself, you can understand that within the thing you envy is a truth about what you should be working toward, not what you should be criticizing someone else for having.