It’s time for the need for sex and the need for love to be granted equal standing, without an added moral gloss.

Many of us start out paralyzed by shame and embarrassment, even after we figure out that we don’t want to be embarrassed by sex. The beliefs we were taught—that our bodies, our desires, and sex are dirty and wrong—make it very hard to develop healthy sexual self-esteem. Many of us spent our adolescences consumed with guilt for our sexual desires, o

The great British documentarian and philosopher Adam Curtis talks about how in Victorian times people spoke about death constantly but never about sex. In contemporary society, the reverse is true: we never talk about death but are obsessed with sex. I think that’s why the COVID-19 pandemic was especially terrifying to us. As body bags were stacked