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Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
The short-term discomfort of setting a boundary isn’t a reason to continue tolerating the longer-term discomfort of the issues that inevitably result. Unhealthy relationships are frustrating and damaging to our long-term well-being. Over time and with consistent practice, setting boundaries
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
“What’s on Your Plate?” exercise is a constructive way to identify what you already have on your plate before committing to more.
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
You Feel Powerless (and Not Sure That Boundaries Will Help) You attend to every problem except the lack of healthy boundaries. You assume that even if you set one, people won’t listen. You think about the worst-case scenario and become consumed with thoughts about how establishing a boundary will never help. But
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
The Meaning of Boundaries They are a safeguard to overextending yourself. They are a self-care practice. They define roles in relationships. They communicate acceptable and unacceptable behaviors in relationships. They are parameters for knowing what to expect in relationships. They are a way that you ask people to show up by upholding your needs.
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
People who exhibit strong signs of being disagreeable, such as always having to be right, arguing over small details, or struggling to accept differences in others, are more likely to push back against boundaries.
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
Inability to say no People-pleasing Dependency on feedback from others Paralyzing fear of being rejected Accepting mistreatment
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
Whereas porous boundaries lead to unhealthy closeness (enmeshment), rigid ones are a self-protective mechanism meant to build
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
Being honest and up front (from the beginning, if possible) about what you expect and what you can offer will save you and your partner lots of heartache and arguments.
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago
Doing things that don’t make you happy Lacking balance (harmony) in your roles and
from Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Marlo Fisken added 5d ago