Romance plot
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Romance plot
1) intense fixation on whether your feelings are reciprocated and
Substack • The Agony of Eros: On Limerence - By Ava - Bookbear Express
Supreedha added
What emerges time and again are portraits of people who desperately crave love and want to keep their relationships intact at any cost, but their fear sabotages any attempt at intimacy and is causing their relationships to fail. They struggle to engage with hobbies because they never believe their work is of any worth.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
In fact, a crush is painful, so in spiritual consciousness, we may feel compassion for the person who obsesses about us in that way.
David Richo • How to Be an Adult in Love: Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly
Similarly, because children cannot easily leave an offending situation, they are prey to powerful, limitless longings to fix the broken person they so completely depend on. It becomes, in the infantile imagination, the child’s responsibility to mend the anger, addiction or sadness of the grown-up they adore. It may be the work of decades to develop
... See moreAlain De Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education
I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition. Of course crushes are more than that—they’re about nostalgia and magic and futures we’ll never access—but I t... See more
Ava • how to avoid half-heartedness
Zach Kirshner added
I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition. Of course crushes are more than that—they’re about nostalgia and magic and futures we’ll never access—but I t... See more
Ava • How to Avoid Half-Heartedness
sari added
they are inherently unlovable and will always be abandoned. Two forces begin to pull at this person: “I have to make them stay!” and “I cannot trust them. They will surely leave me.” This leads to behaviors that are almost certain to prove the second statement to be true, so clinging behaviors become more and more desperate.
Jessica Baum • Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love
