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Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love
Apologizing for things we haven’t done. This one is rooted deep in childhood where we always felt we must have done something wrong if our parents didn’t stay connected with us.
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it’s likely their voices have become such a constant in the back of your mind that you even believe they are the strongest part of you. Maybe even the real you. But remember, they are not.
from Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
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It’s like being a horse that forgets it can walk without being whipped forward.
from Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
Frank Brown added 5mo ago
big part of this is just being warmly witnessed and understood, but it is also important that there is safety if there has been fear, acceptance if there has been shame, comfort if there has been pain, and togetherness if there has been abandonment.
from Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
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Exercise: Steps to Adopt Your Full Selves and Give Them What They Need
from Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
Frank Brown added 5mo ago
we begin to form expectations of what our relationships will be like in infancy. Part of this is recorded in our ANS. If our parents aren’t able to provide warm, safe connection a good part of the time, our sympathetic fight-or-flight response is on a lot. We begin to anticipate that our closest people won’t come to help us when we feel disconnecte
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It’s important to remember that all your feelings are okay. What I mean by this is that there is no such thing as a “good” or a “bad” feeling.
from Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
Frank Brown added 5mo ago
We will be moving into deeper connection to our intuitive selves, developing full-body awareness. The fancy word for this is interoception. When we cultivate this capacity, we will have felt sense, which is a bodily knowing inside of us that allows access to all the parts of us that have experienced warmth and goodness (our Inner Nurturers), those
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Frank Brown added 5mo ago
Faced with difficult emotions, the common response is to try to fix them as quickly as possible—whether this means medicating them away (with alcohol or prescription drugs) or simply putting on a brave face and pretending that everything is okay.
from Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
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