Social media is full of young women warning each other and listing out red flags and reasons why you should dump him or dodge commitment. He compliments you a lot? Love-bombing. Says I miss you too soon?Run. Approaches you in person? Predator. It’s all so cynical. It’s all about how not to catch feelings; ways not to get attached; how “you’re not... See more

The incentives of dating apps actively discourage building algorithms that show compatible matches, since finding a compatible match means you no longer need their product. You really are put in a room with total strangers, most likely the wrong kind, instead of those with similar interests and values. If you met the right stranger, you’d hit it... See more

Today’s illusion of freedom often conceals deeper constraints. We curate love the way we curate images: perfected, filtered, groomed for consumption. Dating apps present partners like products; emotional connection is evaluated with the logic of UX design. Love becomes performance before it becomes presence. We advertise desire before we experience... See more