Renewing Your Relationship

The longer we know our partner, the better we understand who they are; or, at least, that’s what we like to think. In reality, we all begin to develop and fill in pictures of who we believe our partner is. In other words, we create a “frame” for how we see each other. ‘He is strong and stable,’ ‘She wants to control me,’

We all see through biases, through our own history, or more importantly, through our own belief systems. These beliefs, or pictures, are often rooted in several places: beliefs we have formed about marriage, beliefs about our partner, and beliefs about ourselves.

all couples struggle with one central task: how to negotiate the issue of closeness and distance