what makes you resilient to trauma is to own yourself fully. So if somebody says hurtful or insulting things, you can say, “interesting, that person is saying hurtful and insulting things.” But you can separate your sense of yourself from them. We are really beginning to seriously understand how human beings can learn how to do that, to observe and

the toothpaste isn’t on your face—it’s on the mirror. In the same way, what you suffer from exists only in the mind, not on the true you. When you truly understand this—when you recognize where the distortion actually lies—that moment of understanding initiates its own kind of action, leaving nothing more for you to “do.” Your sole responsibility i

“Choose not to be harmed — and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed — and you haven’t been.”