Pattern. The next time the same problem comes up, think pattern. Now the concern is not just that this has happened once, but that a pattern is starting to develop, or already has.
Kerry Patterson • Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High, Third Edition
A pattern is a ghost from the past. It cannot help you. The world that generated it no longer exists. Whenever it runs, it draws you into the illusion of that world. If you try to satisfy it, you have accepted that world, and you are in its power, with all its demands, dysfunctions and contradictions. This is the opposite of the freedom you seek.
Ken I. McLeod • Reflections on Silver River
A consistent pattern I notice in all hyper-successful people: The emotion they're trying hardest not to feel is exactly what they're recreating.
Avoid failure → Play it safe → Feel like a failure
I call this the Golden Algorithm. Here's how it works: https://t.co/cufOPZnwCK