Perspective mistaking: Accurately understanding the mind of another requires getting perspective, not taking perspective - PubMed
Nicholas Epleypubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Perspective mistaking: Accurately understanding the mind of another requires getting perspective, not taking perspective - PubMed
Perhaps, instead of perspective taking, we ought to be focused on perspective getting, on asking people to describe their inner lives, their values and beliefs and feelings, the things they care about most.
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection
The psychologists Larry Jacoby, Bob Bjork, and Colleen Kelley, summing up studies on illusions of comprehension, competence, and remembering, write that it is nearly impossible to avoid basing one’s judgments on subjective experience. Humans do not give greater credence to an objective record of a past event than to their subjective remembering of
... See moreHenry L. Roediger III • Make It Stick
Understanding all behavior makes sense with sufficient information transforms how we view others. It challenges us to move beyond snap judgments and approach things with curiosity. Instead of asking, ‘why are they acting like this’ we can try, ‘what might I not know about their world?’
Adam Singer • All behavior makes sense with sufficient information
Perhaps, instead of perspective taking, we ought to be focused on perspective getting,8 on asking people to describe their inner lives, their values and beliefs and feelings, the things they care about most. Epley sensed there was something about asking questions—the right questions—that contained the seeds of real understanding. But which question
... See moreCharles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
What may be counterintuitive is that self-insight rarely comes from staying in our heads. Research suggests that reflecting or ruminating on our thoughts and feelings is an ineffective way to achieve true understanding.4 Studying our own behavior is more fruitful.