perfectionism is a form of shame
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perfectionism is a form of shame
Perfectionism holds us back from showing up and trying, or really doing the important work of our lives. This happens because when we are afraid of failing, or feeling vulnerable, or not being as good as we want others to think we are, we end up avoiding the work that is required to actually become that good.
Brianna Wiest • The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
Perfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
Ellen Hendriksen • “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
The Pain of Perfectionism
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