perfectionism is a form of shame
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perfectionism is a form of shame
Perfectionism holds us back from showing up and trying, or really doing the important work of our lives. This happens because when we are afraid of failing, or feeling vulnerable, or not being as good as we want others to think we are, we end up avoiding the work that is required to actually become that good.
Brianna Wiest • The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
the real struggle of perfectionism isn’t the impossibility of perfection — it’s the constant feeling of failure.
I’ve long lived as if there’s a silent critic in the corner, watching and grading me. Is my kitchen clean? Do my pants fit? Did I complete everything on my to-do list? Did I journal, meditate, exercise? Did I try hard enough? Did I make... See more
I’ve long lived as if there’s a silent critic in the corner, watching and grading me. Is my kitchen clean? Do my pants fit? Did I complete everything on my to-do list? Did I journal, meditate, exercise? Did I try hard enough? Did I make... See more
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The Pain of Perfectionism
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