
On attunement

Attunement is mirrored attentiveness from one person to another. Attentiveness means noticing and hearing words, feelings, and experience. In a moment of authentic attention, we feel that we are deeply and truly understood in what we say or do and in who we are, with nothing left out. Likewise, we can attune to others’ feelings, needs, bodily react
... See moreDavid Richo • How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Being an Illuminator, seeing other people in all their fullness, doesn’t just happen. It’s a craft, a set of skills, a way of life. Other cultures have words for this way of being. The Koreans call it nunchi, the ability to be sensitive to other people’s moods and thoughts. The Germans (of course) have a word for it: herzensbildung, training one’s
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Opinion | The Essential Skills for Being Human
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In a dialogue with fellow scholars Thijs Lijster and Robin Celikates, Rosa imagines resonance as a descendant of Emile Durkheim’s notion of “collective effervescence,” the ecstasy shared by participants in music, sports, dancing, or spirituality. Rosa believes that attuning ourselves to this intense feeling of invigorating camaraderie is a necessar... See more
🏡 I Don’t Resonate With You
Being resonant as a person means having a deep and lasting impact on others, often by connecting with them on an emotional or experiential level. This connection is marked by empathy, authenticity, and the ability to inspire and influence others in a meaningful way. Resonance goes beyond just being noticed or acknowledged; it involves creating a se... See more