Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being overwhelmed by

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other. Don’t look at all five feet at once. Just take a step. And when you’ve taken that step, take one more. Eventually you’ll make it to the shower. And you’ll make it to tomorrow and next year too.

losses tend to be multilayered. There’s the actual loss (in my case, of Boyfriend), and the underlying loss (what it represents).

even if we often have less of it than we imagine. What people don’t like to think about is that you can do everything right—in life or in a treatment protocol—and still get the short end of the stick. And when that happens, the only control you have is how you deal with that stick—your way, not the way others say you should. I’d let Julie do it her

think of a Flannery O’Connor quote: “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”

one of the most important lessons from my training: There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest.

“Your feelings don’t have to mesh with what you think they should be,” he explained. “They’ll be

As Andrew Solomon wrote in The Noonday Demon: “The opposite of depression isn’t happiness, but vitality.”