Maturity is Not Letting Things Drag On
Stoic calmness isn’t indifference but the distance gained on emotions, a quiet vantage to view the turbulence. From afar, you see patterns, connections, the whole—islands and routes. Up close, it dissolves into texture, incoherence, immersion, like a face blurring before a kiss.
It's easy to fall into the trap of feeling responsible for other people's emotions, reactions, and inner turmoil. We have an innate desire to be understood and accepted. So when others seem upset with us, judge us, or want us to change, we leap to explain, rationalize, and pacify. But in our quest to please or appease, we often lose ourselves. We diminish our needs and sacrifice our well-being. We are not accountable for how others interpret our words or actions. We are not tasked with managing their wounds, insecurities, and inner wars. It is a losing game to contort ourselves, trying to be who others wish we were. This will only lead to resentment and emotional depletion on our part. Know that setting firm boundaries, honoring your authenticity, and speaking your truth with love is sufficient. You are not required to make sure everyone understands or approves. You are not obligated to take on negative energy that is not yours. Your responsibility lies in staying aligned with your highest self. The rest will fall into place as it should.
instagram.comThink of it as developing a certain respect for the character of the present moment just as it is, the same way we learn to respect a person despite their faults and imperfections. Essentially, your whole life is a progression of such meetings: a moment will present itself, warts and all, and you can either respect and welcome it as the imperfect t... See more
David Cain • Mindfulness is the Opposite of Neediness
The presence or absence of spiritual maturity is never more noticeable than in one’s attitude to the changing circumstances of life. Too often they generate anxiety, anger, frustration, or bitterness, whereas God’s design is always for our spiritual growth. “God disciplines us for our good” (Hebrews 12:10).