Love

Love is resilient, secure, and instinctual. Love looks beyond someone’s behavior and toward understanding. From love, excellence is effortless and leadership automatic. Love is the opposite of boxed in or uptight. Love is free.

True love is free of fear and characterized by non-attachment. Fear of loss energizes undue attachment and possessiveness. For example, the man who is insecure about his girlfriend is very jealous.

When love exists it does so with or without cathexis and with or without a loving feeling. It is easier—indeed, it is fun—to love with cathexis and the feeling of love. But it is possible to love without cathexis and without loving feelings, and it is in the fulfillment of this possibility that genuine and transcendent love is distinguished from si

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents—trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains—and surrendering all

Love means, “I’m perfectly happy without you, darling, it’s all right.” It means, “And I wish you good, and I leave you free. And when I get you, I’m delighted; and when I don’t, I’m not miserable.”

Love is far from an anti-intellectual response. Love demands every resource we can muster – our creativity, our imagination, our compassion, as well as our smart, shiny, thinking self. Love is the totality. No one, at the end of life, regrets love.

Love is far from an anti-intellectual response. Love demands every resource we can muster – our creativity, our imagination, our compassion, as well as our smart, shiny, thinking self. Love is the totality. No one, at the end of life, regrets love.