Is Your Partner Keeping Score in Your Relationship?
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Is Your Partner Keeping Score in Your Relationship?
We stew on resentments for far too long before bringing up a problem. We start harshly, with criticism. We don’t know how to self-soothe, and we get overwhelmed and flooded with emotion. We get defensive. We don’t stop to figure out what the fight is really about. We miss or reject the attempts our partners make to repair and meet in the middle. We
... See moreJulie Schwartz Gottman • Fight Right
This is definitely a red flag in relationships and needs to be addressed. Do not fall for the bate of arguing about word choice, exact definitions and fact checking. Instead bring light to this being a deflection from the original topic. The only way this dynamic can be healed and repaired is if the person with unhealed judgment wounds becomes... See more
theyogacoupleinstagram.comdiscovered in my studies that one of the major barriers to reconnection is the urge to align two views of the past. Many people remain estranged for that reason alone: The other person will not give up his or her view of past events and subscribe to the “correct” one.