“If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance. Most perfectionists were raised being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule-following, people-pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, we adopt this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I acco
... See moreBrené Brown • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Flett has come to understand mattering as a counterpoint to perfectionism, a more viable way to arrive at a sense of self-worth. One doesn’t have to be perfect; one just has to matter to someone. Indeed, feeling invisible or undervalued—a feeling Flett calls “anti-mattering”—is often what fuels a perfectionist’s neurosis. Flett’s first peer-reviewe... See more
