How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk
A simple question designed to elicit a story, such as “What did you do this morning?,” is a good way to begin to get to know a person without being threatening.
Tyler Cowen • Talent: How to Identify Energizers, Creatives, and Winners Around the World
Ask people to describe how they feel about their life (Needs goals, beliefs, experiences, and emotions) rather than the facts of their life, then ask tons of follow ups. Reciprocate vulnerability by sharing something vulnerable about yourself.
Supercommunicators
Begin by picking two or three that you really like and keep those in your back pocket so that you can pull them out at a time when you’d normally default to the usual small talk.
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
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A simple question designed to elicit a story, such as “What did you do this morning?,” is a good way to begin to get to know a person without being threatening.