How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk
Ask people to describe how they feel about their life (Needs goals, beliefs, experiences, and emotions) rather than the facts of their life, then ask tons of follow ups. Reciprocate vulnerability by sharing something vulnerable about yourself.
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“What are ten words your spouse or partner or friend would use to describe you?” •“What’s the most courageous thing you’ve done?” •“If you joined us and then in three to six months you were no longer here, why would that be?” Or ask the same question about five years down the line as well and see how the two answers differ. •“What did you like to d
... See moreDaniel Gross • Talent
Ask others about their beliefs and values. Ask them about experiences and those moments that caused them to change. Ask how they feel, rather than about facts. Reframe your questions so they are deeper. Ask follow-ups. And as people expose their vulnerabilities, reveal something about yourself. It will be less uncomfortable than you imagine. It wil
... See moreCharles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
As you think about moving your community from “real life” to digital—which we’ll cover in the next chapter—they’re a fantastic “copy and paste” resource to tuck away. What’s one thing you wish more people knew about you? What’s one outdated belief about yourself that you want to disprove? If you could go back in time and tell your younger self one
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From there, I have a few go-to questions that I have found create reliably engaging discourse:
• What's your connection to [insert current place or event]?
• What are you most excited about currently?
• What's lighting you up outside of work?
• What’s your favorite book you’ve read recently?
Note: Always avoid "What do you do?" as a question. It's
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