How to Lose

You can’t wait until everyone understands you and gives you their permission and blessing to go live your life how you want. You don’t need to feel guilty about moving on, letting go, losing their dumb status games, and going after your own life goals. It is ok if you’re not properly calibrated to humanity and meet some people who try to take advan

Failing to accept how the world really works puts your time and energy toward proving how right you are. When the desired results don’t materialize, it’s easy to blame circumstances or others. I call this the wrong side of right. You’re focused on your ego not the outcome. Solutions appear when you stop bargaining and start accepting the reality of

I learned what it meant to pick my battles, and I couldn’t bear to battle with my instincts anymore.

Observe when you’re angry—anger is a loss of control over the situation. Anger is a contract you make with yourself to be in physical and mental and emotional turmoil until reality changes. [1]

letting go of trying to control their reaction, preparing for their response, imagining the future to gain perspective, and if you lose your balance, taking a break.

Giving up your illusion of helplessness leaves you staring at the raw truth: that no one else is totally responsible for your failures, and no one else can push you into the success you deserve. Fortunately, your anger can give you the strength of purpose to take these truths and run straight toward your own North Star. As you do this, you’ll exper