“Every day we waste energy and create pain from misdiagnosing a paradox and treating it as a problem to solve and then fighting over the two poles.”

“Polarities are ongoing, chronic issues that are unavoidable and unsolvable. Attempting to address them with traditional problem solving skills only makes things worse.”

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You do not solve the exhale/inhale polarity by choosing to either inhale or exhale. You manage it by getting the benefits of each while appreciating the limits of each. It is not a static situation. It is a process, an ongoing flow of shifting emphasis from one to the other and back again.”

How a polarity works:

“When the energy crosses between the two poles, it is experienced in the system as ‘tension.’ With this tension, we often assume that we must choose one of the poles as a ‘solution’ to the tension. This is a false choice because the poles are inseparable. The tension is unsolvable in that one cannot choose either pole as a sust... See more

9. Let randomness rule

Letting randomness rule is how to live.

“Choose a life where you choose nothing. Let the random generator decide what you do, where you go, and who you meet.”

“Eventually, you’ll look, act, and socialize very differently than your previous self. You won’t define yourself by these things anymore, since you didn’t choose them.”

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4. Do nothing

Doing nothing is how to live.

“Stop all the thinking and doing. Be still and silent. No actions and no reactions. No judgments and no conclusions. No craving and no fixing.”

“Change your need to change things. In your most peaceful moments, your mind is quiet. You’re not thinking you should be doing anything else. When everything feels p... See more

To make peace with what’s out of your control

What happens if I ignore it and do nothing?

Should I learn a lesson from this, or just move on?

How can I blame no one, and see this as nobody’s fault?

How can I be OK no matter what happens?

When stuck

What is my one top priority now?

How can I begin without waiting for anything?

What advice would I love to hear from an all-knowing sage?

What am I doing that’s actually a distraction?

Instead of avoiding mistakes, how can I make more to learn faster?

Who can help?