how to help someone change without going crazy
According to self-determination theory, humans have three basic needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. One reason why nudges toward change often backfire is that they can feel like a violation of autonomy, leading someone to do the opposite as a way to regain a sense of freedom.
As a result, well-intended feedback can actually reinforce the... See more
As a result, well-intended feedback can actually reinforce the... See more
Casey Rosengren • The Art of Subtle Influence
A detailed primer on investigating and resolving resistance
Every • Why Is It So Hard to Change?
Identifying and getting to know your resistance, especially the parts that get triggered and stop you in your tracks, is how you’ll begin to go beyond what you thought was possible, and appreciate and relate to yourself more fully.