Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships

negative patterns always started when one partner tried to reach for the other and could not make safe emotional contact.

Those who felt close to and could depend on partners reported feeling less angry with and attributing less malicious intent to their partners.

Ted’s apology is not just a statement of contrition, it is an invitation to reconnect.

You have to step back and see the entire picture.

Stopping the Game.

When marriages fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness,

recognize and admit that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent

These negative patterns always started when one partner tried to reach for the other and could not make safe emotional contact.

De-escalating Disconnection