Good Conversations Have Lots of Doorknobs

In this setup, the pressure is always on the non-talker to change, rather than on the talker to be more versatile. This situation minimizes the importance of nonverbal communication: doing nice things for each other, making attentive gestures, or sharing projects in a spirit of collaboration.

Speaking in turns without interrupting each other, adding meaningfully to what the other person has just said, judging when it’s appropriate to start a new