Getting beyond small talk: Study finds people enjoy deep conversations with strangers
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Getting beyond small talk: Study finds people enjoy deep conversations with strangers
higher rates of well-being were associated more with people who had deep conversations than those who made more small talk.
Jay Shetty • 8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk
Ask people to describe how they feel about their life (Needs goals, beliefs, experiences, and emotions) rather than the facts of their life, then ask tons of follow ups. Reciprocate vulnerability by sharing something vulnerable about yourself.
Supercommunicators
A deep question asks people to talk about how they feel. Sometimes this is easy: “How do you feel about…?” Or, we can prompt people to describe specific emotions: “Did it make you happy when…?”
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection
conversation is crucial: Face-to-face conversation is the most human—and humanizing—thing we do.24 Fully present to one another, we learn to listen. It’s where we develop the capacity for empathy. It’s where we experience the joy of being heard, of being understood.
Cal Newport • Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World
I have been thinking a lot about the continued and increasing lack of importance being placed on the idea of conversation , things over the past few years can feel so transactional. Thing is, like everyone, I love the one-way form of conversation that exists via the abundance (and abundance of forms) of content that is out there that drives me to c... See more
Thought Enthusiast • Chris Kaskie, Varyer
However, those same inquiries, recast slightly (“What do you like about where you live?” “What was your favorite part of college?”), invite others to share their preferences, beliefs, and values, and to describe experiences that caused them to grow or change. Those questions make emotional replies easier, and they practically beg the questioner to
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