Forty Years, Forty Lessons

Forgiving doesn’t mean you forget or excuse the hurt; it means you choose your peace over your pride, your joy over your anger. It means you stop letting the past poison your present.

Forgiveness is the ultimate act of self-care. It’s not about them—it’s about you, your well-being, and your ability to live a life unburdened by the weight of perceive... See more

We often keep our connections close to our chests, guarding them like precious resources, believing that by holding onto them, we’re preserving their value. But here’s the irony: by doing that, we’re actually diminishing their value. Networks don’t thrive in isolation; they come alive when the number of connections—the nodes within them—increases.

When you’re genuinely curious about the world, when you let that curiosity guide your reading, your thinking, and your creating, you become a magnet for ideas, conversations, and opportunities. When you’re interested, you’re never boring. And when you’re interesting, the world can’t help but pay attention.

I used to be a parrot, echoing other people's ideas, opinions, and beliefs, because I wasn’t sure of my own. I thought that by ‘borrowing’ and mimicking, I’d be more likeable, it’d be easier to seem cool, clever, or to belong. Looking back now, it gives me the ick—the amount of shit I nodded along to, gross. I think I was scared of looking stupid, ... See more

Resilience isn’t about being unshakable; it’s about getting up every time you’re knocked down. It’s about facing challenges head-on, knowing that you might stumble, but you’ll always find your footing again. Adaptability, on the other hand, is about flow—it’s the ability to pivot, to shift gears when life takes an unexpected turn, and to thrive in ... See more

Don’t just accept things as they are—challenge them, reshape them, make them better. Whether it’s in your industry, your community, or your own life, be the one who dares to push for what could be, rather than settling for what is. Because real change doesn’t happen by accident—it happens because someone like you decided to make it happen.

Being your own hype woman isn’t about arrogance or bragging. It’s about reclaiming your power, owning your story, and refusing to downplay your brilliance just to make others comfortable. It’s about looking in the mirror and giving yourself the pep talks you need, the ones that push you to keep going, to dream bigger, to take that leap.

By drawing lines in the sand around your values, your expectations, your emotional well-being, and your belief systems, you’re not just protecting yourself—you’re defining yourself. You’re signalling both who you are and who you want your tribe to be.

People Can Only Meet You As Deeply As They’ve Met Themselves.