Five wholesome, algorithm-free tips for cultivating a rich(er) social life

Write on the internet.

Find or create a

third place.

Pick up the phone.

Join niche interest groups.

Live, don't lurk.

Embrace candid culture.

Put people you care about on the calendar.

Don't play near black holes.

Meet people at farmers markets.

Learn to communicate.

Make wobbly things. Subscribe to local events calendars.

Learn to win friends.

Learn to feel.

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First off you gotta learn to listen to your senses and your body — esp gut and heart rate, which can help you understand how you *actually* feel about any situation. I think a lot of people are numb, disembodied, so they find it too frictionless to talk themselves into a life they hate and out of one that fulfills them bc they can’t tell what’s act... See more

For most people, loneliness doesn't stem from a lack of friends. It comes from not feeling connected to the friends you already have, while "peering in" on their lives via social media. (You can read more about this in the ancient text Big Friendship.) This problem is not fixable if you expect community to just happen naturally . It is fixable if y... See more

On Finding Your People: I’m told I have an unusual talent for finding wonderful people. Below is my strategy for having a rich social life in any large city Disclaimer: This will require you acting in a way that is not normal. You may need to decide whether you want to be normal yet lonely or unusual yet connected 0. Treat it as a second job. For... See more

when it comes to feeling connected — feeling known — it doesn’t matter if you have a thousand followers, or once shared a smoothie with so-and-so microcelebrity, or founded a Web3 collective that we totally all agree is revolutionizing capitalism and not a scam or whatever. What matters is having 1-5 people who are really excited to spend time with... See more

social theory: the best way to make new friends is to invite people to do an activity that will occupy enough of their brain capacity such that their defenses will be down and they’ll be a more open version of themselves

also think we need to learn to enjoy locality. Culture emerges from the connections between people, and I believe these are always strongest in person. Face-to-face cultural engagement is necessarily participatory, online cultural engagement rarely is. Nearly all of my most fulfilling and exciting experiences, those that have made me feel part of a

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