feeling safe in creative work & business — kening zhu

There are several aspects to a holding environment and the sense of safe, protected space. One is our home, where we live. Does your home feel both safe and nourishing? Is it a place you like to be? What happens when you move one level farther out to the surrounding area? Do you feel at home in your neighborhood?

I felt lost as a child in my dysfunctional family. I felt adult pressures that mutilated my inner child. There was no room for my needs or perspective. There was no room to be a child. Today there is room in my life for both the child self and the adult self.

It’s as if you’ve got internal departments and the inner critic works for the Risk Aversion Department. The folks over at the Risk Aversion Department don’t coordinate with the folks in the Fulfillment Department. They don’t care if you have a fulfilled or self-actualized day in your life! They’ll be pleased if you feel relatively bored, numbed out

helped people see that the experiences they’d been avoiding and the memories of painful experiences they sought to escape were painful and scary to them because they cared—they cared about living a life enriched by love; about being a nurturing person; about pursuing interests they found intrinsically engaging and meaningful, whether or not society

This circle of creativity of sorts is a space in which children can take risks and try things out, fall down and stand up again, fail and succeed—because they feel secure and safe in the proximity of a person who loves them unconditionally.

Far too many creative people have been taught to distrust pleasure and to put their faith in struggle alone. Too many artists still believe that anguish is the only truly authentic emotional experience. They could have picked up this dark idea anywhere; it’s a commonly held belief here in the Western world, what with our weighty emotional heritage