Episode 091: The Matrix & Big Feelings
Your family can push your buttons because they helped install them.
When you respond differently, you break the stimulus-response pattern
They expect the old you to show up.
You're not required to deliver.
Dr. Dominic Ngsubstack.comIf your needs are being frustrated by another person’s behavior, it’s especially important to ask “Why?” enough times to reach the root of your feelings, where they can be expressed in terms of your needs, not other people’s behavior. If you feel really stuck, wanting another person to behave differently even though you know it’s not going to happe
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ones. You can go to a therapist and discover the root of your anger in childhood. You can learn to reframe your experience, so when anger comes up, you visualize the best moment of your life and swish a new pattern of emotion into the moment. Instead of wallowing…
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